Okay, firstly, I think someone should only be called a friend, if :
1) They stick up for you when others talk shit about you
2) They don't go about spreading crap that isn't true
3) When you're down, they make you feel better, or at least try to
4) They don't ditch you in times of trouble to protect themselves from getting into any trouble.
5) They try their best to always make you smile.
6) They know exactly what can make you feel better when you're upset.
7) They don't take advantage of you.
& sadly, I know people who are total opposites of everything I just listed. Now, I'm not saying I myself make the best friend, cos' I have my own flaws as well. I know for a fact that I'm not perfect. But is it wrong to at least TRY to be a good friend? Will it do you any harm to be nice? Of course, these days, when anyone is nice, people end up taking advantage of them. But that isn't an excuse to be a bitch all your life. Because when you show people respect, people will respect you as well. Likewise, if you're nice, people will realise you're one of the few sincere ones. & they'll be nicer to you as well. Most of the time, at least. & if you know someone is known for taking advantage when people are nice to them, then simple, try to avoid them. Because a friend doesn't use a friend to get something they want, & then throw that person away when they've got what they want. That's just wrong.
Sometimes, it pays to forgive & forget, because it could possibly make friendships stronger. But on the other hand, sometimes it's okay to forgive, but not forget. I can name so many instances where I forgave people, but I am yet to forget what happened. Because sometimes, when you forget things so quickly, it gives more room for the same thing to happen again. Oh trust me, you don't want to make the same mistake twice. You'll feel the burn afterward. Believe me. When you make the same mistake more than once, not only will you feel like such a fool, you'll also be in a huge dilemma whether to let it go or not.
A friend also never ditches someone to get themselves out of trouble. Among all the shit I've been through, that must be the worst. To finally realise that the one person you called a best friend, ditched you when you were in big trouble, when you needed her/him most. When it was supposed to be BOTH of you who landed in hot soup, but it ended up only being you, since she was too cowardly to accept the fact that she was in the wrong as well. In order to get herself out of any trouble, she walked out of the whole situation, & left you to fend for yourself. If you haven't experienced something like this, let me just tell you, it hurts. It hurts so much. Someone you treated like family, betrayed you. It feels like you got stabbed a hundred times in the chest.
Quit lieing to yourself. Quit saying "I'm okay" when you know, for a fact, that you're sure as hell not okay. It's okay to cry. It's okay to let it out. It's alright to admit that, yes, you've fallen down, but you'll be able to pick yourself up after a while. It's true when they say time heals pain. & if you feel you need to talk, but you don't know who to talk to, or have no one to talk to, write about it. Scream it out. Cry it away. Sing it. OR, you could just choose to feel sorry for yourself, & hope that an angel will walk in & heal you.
Do remember that:
- When you show respect, you earn respect.
- When you're nice, people will be nice to you.
- When you fall, it'll take time, but you'll be able to pick yourself up again & move on.
